My Link to Mildred

Cindy Bigbie

The trauma in your life didn’t start with you, but you have the power to end it.

Dr. Cindy Bigbie is a communications specialist with a mission to turn the tide on trauma and violence. In My Link to Mildred, Dr. Bigbie reveals her own family’s historical trauma, how it led to her work with Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and her belief in NVC’s potential to make a more peaceful world.

My Link to Mildred is an intensely personal story about how trauma plagues generations and how NVC was integral in interrupting the trauma patterns passed down over time. This story of hope and possibility includes real-world application and information about NVC. Discover the connections between trauma, brain research, and violence. Explore how NVC has the potential to reverse our national trauma epidemic and foster the healing we need in work, schools, and homes.

Press & Praise

Susan Lynn, PhD, Chair and Professor, Thomas University Division of Education

Our most highly rated and sought-after curriculum is the one that Dr. Bigbie brought to Thomas University years ago. It was all based in the very same processes that she puts forth in this writing. I have seen enormous changes in how teachers respond in critical communication instances due to Dr. Bigbie's legacy at Thomas University.

Heart Phoenix, Chair and Co-Founder of The River Phoenix Center for Peacebuilding

From the very beginning of this beautifully written book, Dr. Bigbie plants within us a heightened awareness of the role intergenerational trauma plays in our human conduct and experience. This very personal story of her life not only sheds light on the mysteries of life and death, but also shows us the path to end the vicious cycle of violence. This is a courageous, moving, and deeply personal story that will change your life.

Jeremiah W. Murphy, President of Connection First and Professor of Physics at Florida State University

Dr. Cindy Bigbie has gained widespread recognition as a restorative practices director, as an entrepreneur, as a podcaster, and for her innovative Nonviolent Communication course. Moreover, she has inspired our community to find transformational connection and healing. Her inspirational reach now continues with her story of intergenerational trauma and the path to healing.

Dr. Cindy Bigbie, “America’s Communication Coach,” is President of The Bigbie Method (TBM). An award-winning trainer, consultant, and speaker, she created The Bigbie Method to address America’s trauma epidemic. Dr. Bigbie has dedicated her career to bringing restorative practices and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to all segments of society. In 2019, she won the Dennis Maloney Award for Youth-Based Community and Restorative Justice Programs from the National Association of Community and Restorative Justice. She holds a PhD in Instructional Systems Design from Florida State University.


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